They are always messy. The kids will be traumatized. Exes hate each other.
Misconceptions of a divorce are numerous. With the increase in the divorce rate has come a kind of acceptance that some marriages don't last forever. However, there is still a slight stigma around the topic of divorce.
The truth is a lot of the myths surrounding divorce depend greatly on the actions of the couple going through the process.
Truth is, some people aren't meant for each other. There could be abuse, both physical or emotional, infidelity or other reasons why a marriage ends. It takes great courage for someone to enter into a divorce proceeding.
While it won't be easy, and splitting up can be painful, divorces don't always have to be messy between the couple. It depends on the mindset of the individuals coming into the situation, but if a couple decides to remain civil they will have a relatively smooth process.
Another myth about divorce is that children will be negatively affected by the split. Communication is the key here. If both parents can talk to their children together, and remain respectful of each other in front of their children then they should come out relatively unharmed. This can be especially important during talks about child custody and support.
While some divorces end badly, and spouses end up not getting along, that's not the case for everyone. Lots of couples can remain friends even after splitting up. Again, it all depends on the actions of the couple going through the divorce.
Divorces are never easy, and are often not quick. Sometimes a marriage doesn't work out for whatever reason, but it's important to remember to remain respectful, and some of the horror stories won't become a living nightmare.
For more information on divorces, please feel free to contact The Law Office of Bradley R. Tengler in Rockford, IL at 815-981-4859 for a free consultation. Please note, the above does not constitute legal advice. Please discuss your specific rights with an attorney in your own jurisdiction.
Sources: Leslie Fineberg, "Five Common Misconceptions People Have about Divorce," Feb. 4, 2014