While some Illinois parents try to hold off getting divorced until after the holidays, others feel that there is no point in delaying the inevitable. For the kids involved in such situations, the results can be dramatic and even cause them to detest the most "wonderful" time of the year.
Thankfully, there are ways single parents can make the season more bearable. When it comes to the kids, they should avoid trying to overcompensate with gifts and try to spend as much time with them as possible. If parents do not have the kids for a specific holiday, they should try to find another place to go. This may mean spending the day with friends or family.
If the single parents do have the kids for a specific holiday, the time should be spent focusing on the kids. Parents should avoid badmouthing the ex and take the high road. If necessary, this is a good time to make new traditions with the kids that do not involve the other parent. The main point is to handle the separation and divorce in a positive way that will help the children deal with their new family structure.
Going through the separation process, especially during Christmastime, can be hard for everyone involved. If the divorce is not amicable, dealing with child custody and property division can make life at home stressful for the kids, especially if they feel that they have no control over the situation. A family law attorney may help a client draft a parenting plan that allows the kids to continue to have a stable life at home even if the parents go through with the divorce.