Til 18 Do Us Part

Oct 17, 2021 | Child Custody, Divorce

We recently shared some advice about how important it is to stay out of the spotlight during your divorce and let your lawyer do the talking. Taking to social media to vent about your soon-to-be ex can damage your case and lead to long-term problems.

If you have children, chances are you will be in a co-parenting relationship with your ex until your child is at least 18 years old and it is crucial to remain on good terms so you can make joint decisions about what is best for your child.

Setting legal issues aside, it is not a good idea to complain or say negative things about your ex in front of your child; after all, that is their parent. On the legal front, badmouthing your ex to your kids can result in accusations of fueling parental alienation syndrome.

What Is Parental Alienation?

Parental alienation syndrome describes behaviors in children that include unwarranted fear, disrespect or hostility towards a parent. Illinois family courts do not specifically recognize parental alienation syndrome, but there are a variety of family law statutes that aim to discourage the behaviors that have been shown to spur on parental alienation.

To avoid legal issues and do what is in the best interest of your child, avoid the following:

  • Badmouthing your ex
  • Failing to abide by the custody schedule (late drop offs, early pickups, interfering in visitation)
  • Making your child feel guilty for spending time with their other parent

You got divorced for a reason; no one expects you and your ex to be best friends. However, you do need to set your differences aside to do what is best for your child. In almost all situations, having a solid, loving relationship with both parents is what is best for your child.